As we grow older, we tend to worry about our memory and thinking. We hear so much about Alzheimer’s disease and other dementia, and chances are we have friends and loved ones who have been touched by one of these conditions. Some people even believe that memory loss is inevitable—that they will surely become “senile” in their later years.

This couldn’t be farther from the truth for most of us. Sharpness of memory varies from individual to individual. Genes are a factor—by some accounts, about 30 percent of our memory health is hereditary. But the other two-thirds of memory wellness might well be within our control, say experts. There are steps we can take to maintain a healthy memory.

  1. Exercise your mind and memory. Mental stimulation encourages new connections between brain cells. “Use it or lose it” isn’t just a cliché when it comes to memory health. Brain experts tell us to give our brains a workout with challenging activities. Learning something new is especially good. Take up an instrument, learn a foreign language, join a club, volunteer, do a difficult puzzle each day. Passive activities, such as watching TV, don’t offer the same benefits. You can also “exercise” your memory using visualization and concentration. And memory aids—from sticky notes to smartphone reminders—can pick up where our memory leaves off.
  2. Exercise your body, too! Aerobic exercise has been found to ward off Alzheimer’s disease, stroke and other memory-damaging conditions. It helps us avoid obesity, which is also bad for brain health. Recent research also shows that muscle-strengthening exercise helps the brain. And relaxation exercises, such as tai chi and yoga, are also showing promise. Talk to your healthcare provider about an exercise program that is right for you.
  3. Take care of your all-around health. The more we know about cognitive wellness, the more we realize that brain health can be negatively impacted by heart disease, diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, kidney disease and a number of other disorders. Follow your healthcare provider’s instructions. And ask for a review of your medications; recent studies implicate certain drugs in raising the risk of dementia.
  4. Eat a brain-healthy diet.  We can choose foods that help protect memory. Avoid cholesterol, saturated fats and trans fats. Instead, choose fish, fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats such as olive oil. Take a multivitamin if your healthcare provider recommends it—but don’t take megadoses that could be toxic.
  5. Quit smoking and limit alcohol consumption. Many substances found in cigarette smoke damage the brain and impair memory. And while some studies suggest drinking in moderation might actually be beneficial, having more than a drink or two per day can be toxic to the brain.
  6. Get enough sleep and seek treatment for sleep disorders. You’ve probably noticed that when you don’t get enough good quality sleep, it is harder to concentrate the next day. And did you know that while we’re sleeping, our brain is busy converting short-term memories into those that are retained? Neurologists also tell us that harmful waste material is cleansed from our brain as we sleep.
  7. Lower your stress level and seek help for depression. Stress and depression cause chemical changes in the brain that can be so severe that a person’s family or physician mistakenly suspects Alzheimer’s or other dementia—and in addition, they do raise the risk of Alzheimer’s. Talk with your healthcare provider if you feel stressed or depressed. Counseling, meditation and other relaxation techniques can all help.
  8. Protect against head injury. A lot of people who worry about Alzheimer’s disease forget that head injuries are another major cause of memory loss. A head injury can result in catastrophic damage to the brain and memory. Always use your seatbelt, and if you are a cyclist, wear a helmet. And protect against falls—especially at home, where most serious fall injuries take place.
  9. Have your hearing checked. Studies suggest that older adults with moderate to severe hearing loss may be at higher risk of developing dementia. This may be due to the stressfulness of social isolation, and also to the “exhaustion of cognitive reserve”—our brains have to work much harder when we can’t hear. Hearing loss is often preventable, and hearing aids and other technologies can help seniors improve their hearing.
  10. Have regular dental checkups. Tooth loss and gum disease make it harder to eat a healthy diet, and can be a factor in social isolation. And experts now believe that the bacteria and inflammation caused by gum disease and linked to dementia. Talk to your dentist if arthritis or other problems make it hard to care for your teeth and gums.

If you’re experiencing memory lapses, or if you just find yourself fretting about memory problems, share your concerns with your doctor. Stress can really work a number on our memory—so stressing out about our memory is an ironic cycle we want to avoid! Then you can relax, knowing you’re doing everything you can to keep your memory strong.

Source: IlluminAge AgeWise

November is Family Caregivers Month. Sponsored by the Caregiver Action Network (formerly the National Family Caregivers Association), this event is a time to recognize and honor family caregivers who do so much for their loved ones. This year’s theme, “Take Care to Give Care,” reminds us that caregiving can be stressful and can tax the health of caregivers—making it harder for them to provide good care for their loved ones.

November is also National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month, which is also fitting, because the millions of Americans who provide care for a loved one with dementia are so deserving of our support! While we are advocating for increased resources for people with Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia, we shouldn’t overlook the needs of the millions of dementia caregivers, who work tirelessly to ensure the best quality of life for their loved ones.

While many adult children serve as dementia caregivers, an increasing number of spouses are filling the role. A study performed by a leading researcher on Alzheimer’s caregivers issues sheds light on the need to support these spouse caregivers.

Spouses of people with Alzheimer’s disease usually are older adults. While people who take on the caregiving role tend to initially be healthier than those who do not, caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease is difficult in the best of circumstances, and can take a toll on a person’s health. Counseling and support for people caring for a spouse with Alzheimer’s disease helps to preserve their health, according to a study led by Mary S. Mittelman, Dr.P.H., research professor in the Department of Psychiatry at New York University School of Medicine.

The study resulted from research conducted over 20 years by Dr. Mittelman, which was the longest research study ever devoted to testing an intervention to improve the well-being of Alzheimer’s caregivers. The study involved 406 spouse caregivers of people with Alzheimer’s disease who were divided equally into two groups. The first group received enhanced counseling and support, including six sessions of individual and family counseling, support groups, and telephone counseling for the caregiver and family members as needed. The second group received information and help upon request, but didn’t participate in formal counseling sessions.

Results from the ongoing study showed that caregiver spouses who received enhanced counseling and support were able to delay placing their ailing spouse in a nursing home on average 1½ years longer. Dr. Mittelman and her colleagues also found that counseling and support substantially eased the depression of spouse caregivers.

Caregivers in the study who received the intervention, which was developed at NYU Medical Center by Dr. Mittelman and her colleagues, also reported less of a decline in their own physical health. Dr. Mittelman pointed out, “Preserving the health of spouse caregivers through counseling and support also benefits the person with Alzheimer’s disease, as caregivers who are in poor health are more likely to have difficulty providing good care.” Dr. Mittelman concluded, “Individualized counseling programs that improve social support for caregivers can have many indirect benefits, including sustaining their physical health.”

In 2015, Dr. Mittelman and her team received a grant to develop the NYU Caregiver Integrated Support and Services Access Program (CISSAP), aimed at providing counseling and support to New York City caregivers, which is expected to provide increased insight into effective interventions.

Source:  New York University Medical Center. The study was published in the American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, the official journal of the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry. Adapted by IlluminAge AgeWise.

A recent study published in the Journal of Geriatric Psychology and Neurology found that family caregivers who are suffering from depression experience more distress when they are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or other dementia. The study, by researchers from University of Eastern Finland, suggested that caregivers be tested for depression. This is not only important to help these caregivers provide better care for their loved one; it can also protect their own brain health!

Depression is one of the most common conditions affecting older adults. According to the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, an estimated 15 percent of people older than 65 are dealing with depression, which affects the whole person: mind, body and emotions. Symptoms include a persistent feeling of sadness, lack of energy, changes in normal eating and sleeping, memory disturbances and impaired concentration, loss of interest in usual activities, and trouble keeping up with normal activities at home and work.

If you compare these symptoms to those of Alzheimer’s disease and related conditions, you will notice some striking similarities. Many of the symptoms of depression are known to mimic dementia, so closely that families and even healthcare providers may at first mistakenly suspect that a patient has Alzheimer’s disease. Ruling out depression is an important first step in diagnosing dementia.

Further complicating things, depression itself may be an early sign of dementia. But if depression is a symptom of Alzheimer’s disease, could it also be a risk factor? For years, researchers have speculated that people with depression are more likely to later develop dementia. What is the connection? How could a history of depression make it more likely that a person will suffer cognitive losses later in life?

The American Academy of Neurology states that depression may nearly double a person’s risk of developing dementia. Researcher Jane Saczynzki, Ph.D., of the University of Massachusetts Medical School says, “While it’s unclear if depression causes dementia, there are a number of ways depression might impact the risk of dementia. Inflammation of the brain tissue that occurs when a person is depressed might impact the risk of dementia. Certain proteins found in the brain that increase with depression may also increase the risk of developing dementia.” Researchers from the University of Edinburgh also looked at brain shrinkage caused by high levels of certain stress hormones.

Research is underway to determine the precise nature of the connection between the two conditions. Says Dr. Monica Breteler of Erasmus Medical Center in the Netherlands, “We don’t know yet whether depression contributes to the development of Alzheimer’s disease, or whether another unknown factor causes both depression and dementia. We need to do more studies to understand the relationship.”

University of California San Francisco researchers also found that seniors with serious, increasing depression symptoms are more likely to develop cognitive decline. Said Prof. Allison Kaup, Ph.D., “Our results raise the possibility that older adults’ cognitive health could be improved with interventions to reduce depressive symptoms, such as psychotherapy or other behavioral interventions, or medications. This is an important topic for future treatment studies to investigate.”

One thing researchers agree upon: Depression makes it much less likely that we will follow a healthy lifestyle that protects our memory health. It saps our will and motivation and our desire to be active. Says Saczynski, “Several lifestyle factors related to long-term depression, such as diet and the amount of exercise and social time a person engages in, could also affect whether they develop dementia.”

Depression Can Be Treated

This is yet another reason to seek professional help if you or a loved one shows signs of depression. Depression can become disabling if not properly treated. All too often, people are resistant to the idea that they might have a true depression, feeling that somehow they will “just snap out of it.” But depression is an illness that results from a chemical imbalance in the brain, and it can respond successfully to treatment.

The first step in reversing depression is to have it diagnosed by a physician or other qualified professional. After a thorough exam, the healthcare provider will first try to identify the cause of the depression, which might stem from:

  • Distressing life events such as the death of a spouse, financial worries or illness
  • Chronic pain
  • Nutritional deficiencies such as lack of vitamin B-12 or folic acid, or poor nutrition in general
  • Underlying medical conditions such as low thyroid or other hormone changes, diabetes, heart disease, memory loss or Parkinson’s disease
  • Side effects of specific medications, overmedication, or effects of polypharmacy (taking many drugs which might have a negative interaction)

Treatment for depression may include:

Lifestyle changes—Patients are advised to focus on better nutrition, spending more time with others, increasing physical activity, making more time for enjoyable activities, managing other health conditions, and confronting and dealing with negative thoughts.

Counseling—It’s not always possible for a person with depression to work through troubling thoughts on their own. Talking with a mental health professional may help identify the stressors that have led to depression, aid in developing strategies to lessen those stresses, and change negative thoughts as patients learn to take better care of themselves.

Medication—Antidepressant medications work by helping the brain make its normal chemicals again. These medications can help with sleep, improve energy and reduce anxiety and negative thoughts. There are several classes of these drugs; it is important to work closely with the healthcare provider during the process of finding the best medication for each patient. This may take several months.

Many older adults avoid seeking help for depression. They may have a generational attitude of self-sufficiency and keeping one’s problems to oneself. Seniors should be encouraged to understand that treating depression is no different than treating any other illness. Professional help can let them get their lives back on track. And now we know it may very well also protect their brains!

Better treatment of depression and understanding of the connection between depression and dementia is not only important for senior patients; it is vital for our nation’s healthcare system as well. According to University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine professor Meryl Butters, Ph.D., “An understanding of how late-life depression increases the risk of dementia could lead to better prediction and prevention mechanisms. Early diagnosis and prevention of depression could have a major dual public health impact as they could also potentially prevent or delay cognitive decline and dementia in older adults.”

Source: IlluminAge Communication Partners. Copyright 2016 IlluminAge.

For older adults with chronic conditions, proper nutrition is more than just a good idea. It’s an essential part of managing many health problems like diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, osteoporosis, and more.

That’s why the National Council on Aging (NCOA) encourages all older adults and their caregivers to take time during Malnutrition Awareness Week to learn the warning signs of malnutrition and connect with resources to stay healthy.

“Too often, older adults with chronic conditions can become malnourished because they lose their appetite, or it’s difficult for them to shop for and prepare healthy food,” said Cora Plass, Senior Director of NCOA’s Center for Healthy Aging. “It’s important to understand what malnutrition looks like and take steps to get the nourishment our bodies need.”

The NCOA urges families to be aware of risk factors for malnutrition, such as chewing and swallowing difficulties and taking multiple medications, and to alert their loved one’s healthcare professional if they notice warning signs of malnutrition, such as eating poorly and unplanned weight loss.

The Gerontological Society of America confirms the challenges of good nutrition for older adults and their caregivers. In an online survey of over 1,000 people conducted by Harris Interactive in July 2015, 83 percent of patients and caregivers said they think malnutrition is a significant problem for older adults, yet only 28 percent of caregivers said they understand malnutrition very well. More than 90 percent of caregivers said they provide care for an older adult who has experienced a chronic health problem.

For seniors living with chronic conditions, malnutrition can result in the loss of muscle and other tissue, which can make it harder to recover, increase the risk for infection and falls, decrease strength, and lead to longer hospital stays.

NCOA has teamed with the Families and Work Institute and Abbott to raise awareness about malnutrition in older adults and provide practical information and tips. Free, trusted information is available at www.ncoa.org/NutritionTools.

Source: The National Council on Aging (NCOA), a respected national leader and trusted partner to help people aged 60+ meet the challenges of aging, whose mission is to improve the lives of millions of older adults, especially those who are struggling. Through innovative community programs and services, online help, and advocacy, NCOA is partnering with nonprofit organizations, government, and business to improve the health and economic security of 10 million older adults by 2020. Learn more at www.ncoa.org.

An expert says a decline in financial management skills might be an early sign of Alzheimer’s disease, and family may need to step in.

What’s the most challenging topic to discuss with older loved ones? Family caregivers often name end-of-life wishes, driving safety and incontinence as tough-to-talk-about subjects—but according to many experts, money management is right at the top of the list. Most older adults view taking care of their financial affairs as a private matter, and pride themselves on doing a good job of it. Yet, according to the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, seniors may have cognitive challenges that make it hard to keep track of money matters and could make them vulnerable to scam artists and financial elder abuse.

Daniel Marson, Ph.D., J.D., of the University of Alabama at Birmingham (UAB) has studied this topic for a number of years. In a 2009 study, Marson, who is a professor of neurology and director of the Alzheimer’s Disease Center at UAB, noted that poor money management might even be an important early sign of Alzheimer’s disease.

Marson and his team studied a group of people who had mild cognitive impairment, and found that some of them remained able to manage their financial affairs, while others became less able to balance their checkbook, pay their bills or understand their bank statement. This latter group, the researchers found, were far more likely to be later diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. According to Marson, “Impairments in financial skills and judgment are often the first functional changes demonstrated by patients with incipient dementia.”

What signs should families be alert for? In 2014, Marson presented at a symposium called “Financial Planning in the Shadow of Dementia,” put on by the Massachusetts Institute of Technology AgeLab and Transamerica.

He listed the following warning signs:

  • Memory lapses, such as forgetting to pay bills or taxes, or paying bills twice.
  • Poor organization of financial information flow, where a previously neat desk is now in disarray and disorganized. An individual might be confused about when an activity transpired, and mail might not be opened in a timely manner.
  • Math mistakes in everyday life, such as figuring out a tip, balancing a checkbook or needing help with the steps of a calculation.
  • An erosion in the ability to comprehend basic financial concepts.
  • Impaired financial judgment, particularly a new interest in get-rich-quick schemes. A classic sign is that the person would not have considered the scheme five years ago and is now listening and interested.
  • An unrealistic anxiety about personal finances.

It’s important to note that some of us are more money-savvy than others, so what families should be looking for is a change in their loved one’s abilities.

When it’s time to step in, Marson suggests caregivers can:

  • Oversee their loved one’s checking transactions.
  • Contact their loved one’s bank to detect irregularities such as bills being paid twice.
  • Become cosigners on a checking account so that joint signature is required for checks above a certain amount.
  • Help their loved one with online banking and bill payment.

If a family is worried about their loved one’s financial safety, it’s time for a conversation. You might need to call in an expert—your loved one’s physician, an elder law attorney, an aging life care professional (geriatric care manager) or a financial advisor. These are sensitive conversations indeed, but very important to help loved ones with cognitive impairment preserve self-esteem while avoiding financial damage and exploitation.

Source: IlluminAge AgeWise, reporting on studies from University of Alabama Birmingham.

September 18–24, 2016 is National Adult Day Services Week

Sponsored by the National Adult Day Services Association (www.nadsa.org), this special week has been celebrated since 1983. Adult day centers are places where older adults and people with physical or mental challenges can go during the day for socializing, recreation and activities, help with personal care, and to be safe. Many centers also provide health and rehabilitation-related services. Participants in adult day centers most often live with family members, but many still live alone in their own homes, or in assisted living communities, or in adult family homes.

Adult day centers not only benefit these senior and disabled participants; they also provide respite for family members, allowing them to continue working and taking care of other responsibilities. And it’s not just their careers that benefit – many recent studies show that the health of family caregivers is protected when their loved one attends an adult day center.

This is especially true when the person receiving care has Alzheimer’s disease or a related dementia, say experts. During the past few years, researchers from Penn State University have been studying these health benefits, and the results are impressive. Dementia caregiving offers many stressors, and stress raises the risk of heart disease, stroke, diabetes and a host of other illnesses – even Alzheimer’s. In a 2013 study that appeared in the American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, a team headed by Prof. Steven Zarit measured the levels of a beneficial hormone that helps control the effects of stress, and found that on days their loved one attended an adult day center, dementia caregivers had a higher level of the beneficial hormone.

Said Zarit, “We know that caregivers are at increased risk of illness, because of the long hours of care they provide and the high levels of stress. These findings suggest that use of adult day care services may protect caregivers against the harmful effects of stress associated with giving care to someone with dementia.”

In a second Penn State study, this one appearing in Health Psychology, a publication of the American Psychological Association, doctoral candidate Yin Liu showed that when a person with dementia attends an adult day center, caregivers experience fewer of the emotional ups and downs – such as depression and anger – that are linked to an increased risk of illness. Liu explained, “We know that people who are more emotionally labile – who have greater fluctuations – are at more risk of developing health problems when they are in stressful situations.”

Liu, who is now a postdoctoral fellow at the Penn State Center for Healthy Aging, asked 173 family dementia caregivers to keep a diary of their experiences over the course of a week. Said Liu, “The amount of fluctuation was lower when people used more days of adult day services for their relative across the period we observed them.”

The team also found that the participants whose loved ones spent more than the average amount of days in adult daycare not only exhibited greater emotional stability, but also reported better sleep quality – another factor for good health.

Source: IlluminAge AgeWise, reporting on studies from Penn State University. Learn more about adult day centers and National Adult Day Services Week on the website of the National Adult Day Services Association (www.nadsa.org).

A 16-year-old high school student (we’ll call her Anne) recently stood in front of a packed ballroom to speak at an Alzheimer’s fundraiser. She was there to talk about the effect Alzheimer’s had had on her life. When she was just 12 years old, her 45-year-old father was diagnosed with the disease. He died four years later. She talked about how her tall, handsome father was completely debilitated by the disease, to the point where he was literally afraid of his own reflection. When he saw himself in the mirror, he couldn’t understand why there was a strange man in his home. Anne shared that she lost much of her childhood taking care of her father.

Many people have been unaware of the fact that Alzheimer’s is not just a disease of the elderly. The Alzheimer’s Association estimates that as many as 200,000 Americans have early-onset Alzheimer’s, most of them in their 40s and 50s. Recently, more attention has been paid to this form of the disease, as seen in the April 2015 issue of the Regency News.

Early-onset Alzheimer’s has been described as particularly cruel, as it strikes at a time when patients are often beginning to reap the rewards of working hard and raising a family.

This can be particularly hard on caregivers. Early-onset Alzheimer’s often creates even greater burdens for families than the more common late-onset form of the disease. Trying to care for a spouse with the disease – who most likely can no longer work – while raising a family brings a whole new set of challenges to caregiving. That’s why, often, caregiving duties also fall on the children of these families, as demonstrated by Anne in the story above.

Individuals with early-onset Alzheimer’s and their caregivers face a unique set of challenges. Because no one expects a younger person to have the disease, it may be misdiagnosed, and people may not understand or have sympathy for someone living with it. Employers may think someone is simply “losing it” or a spouse may become irritated that their partner in life seems to be letting important tasks go undone.

One of the first things caregivers may face is the question from people who say “S/he’s too young to have Alzheimer’s.” That’s why it’s important for caregivers to become educated. Families should also know that early-onset Alzheimer’s has a genetic component to it, which means that it runs in families. The genetic connection is much stronger in early-onset Alzheimer’s, meaning that if a person’s parent or grandparent is diagnosed with the disease, the person’s chances of developing the condition are much higher compared to those who have a parent or other relative with later-onset Alzheimer’s.

There is a genetic test that can tell if a person has an increased chance of getting the disease. Getting tested is a very personal decision. Before deciding on whether or not to get the test, it’s important to speak with a healthcare professional about the options. For instance, a positive result could affect a person’s ability to obtain life or disability insurance. On the other hand, getting tested could lead to an accurate diagnosis, allowing patient and family to plan ahead, ensure the family will be taken care of, and get treatment. Although there is no cure for Alzheimer’s, there are some treatment options available that may help ease its symptoms.

Washington University in St. Louis is currently conducting clinical trials for people with Autosomal Dominant Alzheimer’s Disease (ADAD), the scientific name given to familial or early-onset Alzheimer’s. The Dominantly Inherited Alzheimer Network Trails Unit (DAIN-TU) is testing drugs to see if there is any way to prevent, delay, or possibly even reverse the effects of the disease in the brain. Study subjects are people at risk for the disease (defined by someone who has either a parent or a sibling with ADAD). For more information, visit http://dian-tu.org.

Learn More

The National Institute on Aging’s Alzheimer’s Disease Education and Referral Center website contains consumer resources about early-onset Alzheimer’s disease.

The Alzheimer’s Association offers information and support for people affected by younger/early onset Alzheimer’s.

Source: IlluminAge Communication Partners. Copyright 2015 IlluminAge

Mindfulness training is a form of meditation that helps people reduce stress by focusing on the present moment. Studies show that this practice can benefit the health of family caregivers whose loved one has Alzheimer’s or a related disorder, helping them cope with the stress and depression that can weaken their immune system and raise the risk of many health disorders.

Northwestern University researchers recently showed that people with memory loss can also benefit from mindfulness training — and they can attend the same sessions as their caregivers. A group of patients and their caregivers participated in the study during which they took a class designed to meet the needs of both patients and caregivers. Participating patients had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, mild cognitive impairment, memory loss due to stroke, or frontotemporal dementia. The family members included spouses, adult children and in-laws.

Patients and caregivers alike gained individual benefits, and the training also helped with their day-to-day relationship. Mindfulness training was found to be particularly beneficial when it came to one major challenge of dementia caregiving: communication. Said study co-author Prof. Sandra Weintraub, “One of the major difficulties that individuals with dementia and their family members encounter is that there is a need for new ways of communicating due to the memory loss and other changes in thinking and abilities. The practice of mindfulness places both participants in the present, and focuses on positive features of the interaction, allowing for a type of connection that may substitute for the more complex ways of communicating in the past.”

Said lead author Prof. Ken Paller, “The disease is challenging for the affected person, family members and caregivers. Although they know things will likely get worse, they can learn to focus on the present, deriving enjoyment in the moment with acceptance and without excessive worry about the future. This is what was taught in the mindfulness program.”

The study appeared in the American Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease and Other Dementias.

Source: Illuminage Communications Partners reporting on study from Northwestern University. Copyright 2015 IlluminAge.

Discussing important and very private issues with loved ones who are growing older can be a challenge. Studies show that few families have these types of conversations until a major event occurs—a sudden health crisis, the loss of a spouse, or even a holiday visit by children during which it becomes apparent that Mom or Dad is having trouble living independently.

But waiting until a crisis occurs is not a good planning strategy. Although it is critical to bring up these subjects before a crisis arises, it’s best to keep the conversation casual. Don’t overwhelm Mom and Dad; let them feel your love and concern. And remember: helping your parents to plan for the future is not only important for their well-being as they age, but it will make a difference in your financial, emotional and physical health as well.

Topics to think about and discuss as a family:

  1. Living options—Do your parents want to stay in their current home as long as possible? Or are they considering “downsizing” or moving to a senior living community? Discuss what they would prefer if they were to experience a decline in health and need greater assistance with the activities of daily living. Home care? Adult day services? Assisted living?
  2. Home modifications—Is your parents’ home keeping up with their needs? What repairs and modifications could make their house, apartment or condominium safer and more convenient?
  3. A plan to stay physically active—Study after study shows that regular physical activity is the most important contributor to healthy aging. No matter what a person’s condition, adding exercise is of benefit. Encourage your loved ones to add more exercise to their lifestyle.
  4. A goal to remain socially connected—Meaningful social interaction is vital to the physical, emotional and intellectual health of people of every age. For most seniors, spending time with children is richly rewarding—but did you know that recent studies show that seniors who socialize not only with family members but also with non-family members have better emotional, intellectual and physical health?
  5. Estate planning—Do your parents have an up-to-date will? If their plan is to pass property to family members, have they talked to a financial advisor about the best way to do that? How can their assets help provide for their own care in case of a decline in health or incapacity?
  6. Advance healthcare planning—Have your parents completed advance directives for healthcare, including a healthcare power of attorney and living will? Have you discussed with them what their wishes are if they were to be incapacitated and unable to make their own healthcare decisions?
  7. Medicare, Social Security, VA benefits, retirement—Are your parents taking advantage of all the benefits available to them? Do they have the best supplemental Medicare policy? Part D drug plan? Do they know the deadlines to sign up for benefits in order to avoid penalties?
  8. Long-term care insurance—Many people erroneously believe that Medicare pays for a nursing home or home health care services. But in reality, long-term care is not covered by Medicare, and paying for it can quickly deplete financial resources. Investigate whether your parents are good candidates for long-term care insurance. And if they already have a policy, is it from a reputable company?
  9. Fall prevention—Especially if they have already experienced falls, many older adults are reluctant to discuss this topic. But did you know that fall protection is actually an important part of planning for the future? Falls are one of the leading causes of incapacity…and this is one risk factor for incapacity that we can take proactive steps to avoid.
  10. Avoiding crime and fraud—Unfortunately, criminals and con artists often target vulnerable seniors. Scams and unethical sales methods aimed at older people can cause serious financial loss. Seniors who have been victimized are often ashamed to discuss the incident. So bring up the subject and educate yourself and your parents about crooked sweepstakes, identity theft and unscrupulous salespersons.

These topic suggestions are intended to provide a framework for seniors and family members as they talk and plan together. And if the “teamwork” aspect isn’t working as well as you’d like, consider adding outside new members to the team! Your loved one’s healthcare provider, a geriatric care manager, financial planner or eldercare attorney can all provide valuable help and guidance.

Remember that you share a common goal in this planning: that you and your loved ones are able to live life as fully and joyfully as possible.

Source: IlluminAge. Copyright 2014 IlluminAge

Most people with Alzheimer’s benefit from getting out of the house. Being cooped up all the time can lead to boredom, increased agitation and sleep disturbances. If your loved is in the earlier stages of Alzheimer’s and enjoys going to restaurants, and you are still comfortable taking him or her out to eat, here are a few tips to make the special meal even more relaxed and pleasant for everyone.

Choosing the eatery

Which restaurants has your loved one always liked? Familiar places may be preferable to a brand-new setting. Here are some things to consider:

Is the place too noisy—or maybe too quiet? Do they have a big-screen TV or loud music? This can be disturbing for people with dementia; hearing loss makes it even worse. On the other hand, many caregivers report that if a restaurant is too quiet or formal, they feel more self-conscious if their loved one talks loudly or makes unexpected comments. When tables are too close together, this can also make everyone uncomfortable.

Will you have to wait longer to be seated and served than is comfortable for your loved one? Is the waiting area chaotic or crowded? Can you make a reservation, and will the restaurant understand your situation and ensure that you are seated promptly? A place where service is relatively fast is usually better than one with a leisurely pace between courses.

Is the space suitable for your loved one’s mobility or sensory challenges? Are there stairs to navigate? If your loved one has difficulty walking, or uses an assistive device such as wheelchair or cane, select a restaurant that can accommodate them comfortably. Are restrooms accessible and easy to reach? A single-stall restroom provides privacy and convenience if you need to assist your loved one with using the toilet and adjusting clothing.

Does your loved one have food restrictions, such as low salt or low fat? Can the kitchen accommodate those special requests? Some offer detailed nutritional information; in others, servers are able to provide information about the ingredients of a particular dish. What about food preferences? Your loved one may be more sensitive to foods that are too hot, spicy or sour. Do they offer senior size or other smaller meals?

Is the restaurant well lit? This is a big consideration. Many stylish bistros feature mood lighting, which can put your loved one in a bad mood if they cannot see the table well. Low lighting also creates a fall risk.

Choosing the time

You know your loved one’s daily rhythms best. Is he or she most alert first thing in the morning? Brunch might be a good choice, and eateries tend to be less crowded early on. If your loved one naps, it might be good to go after he or she wakes up.

As with any outing, it’s best if you can be flexible as you plan a restaurant outing.  Is your loved one having a good day? Maybe this is a good time for an impromptu meal out! On the other hand, if you’ve planned to dine out but your loved one seems tired and upset, it’s better to postpone.

Other tips

It’s good to establish a relationship with the staff of an eatery if you’ll go there often with your loved one. An understanding and helpful server can help put your loved one—and you—at ease and help things go smoothly. Help the server know what your loved one needs, such as a bowl, extra napkins and spoons or filling glasses only halfway.

If your loved one won’t be able to read the menu, make suggestions of things they might enjoy to make selection easier. If the restaurant has an online menu, you might want to peruse that ahead of time and make your selection before you arrive.

Bring along items you might need, such as special utensils and serving ware that your loved one uses, a towel or wipes and any bathroom items.

Ask for a table in a quieter, out-of-the-way part of the restaurant, near the restroom if possible. It may help to have your loved one face away from the kitchen, front door and other more busy areas.

If the meal won’t arrive quickly, ask for a bread basket or an appetizer to be served right away.

Special venues for people with dementia

Food service research shows that the baby boomers and their parents are dining out more often than they used to; indeed, senior diners are the fastest growing group to take more of their meals out. More restaurants are focusing on the needs of senior diners.

In addition, many venues now offer special dining events for people with dementia and their caregivers. These “Alzheimer’s cafes” can be a lovely occasion to relax, make friends, and enjoy your loved one’s company in a nonjudgmental setting.

Source: IlluminAge. Copyright 2016 IlluminAge.